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December 01, 2004
In regards to my last post
So I may need to clarify my posting from yesterday. In no way did this reflect that I am unhappy in any way. It was merely an observation after waking up and saying to myself "God another day where I have to get ready for work".
I did ovserve people yesterday and came to an opinion that the body is just merely a host for our spirits. I watched people move, talk, and live life and thought how mechanical we all are. I thought of the body snatchers and wondered how untrue to life is that really. Why couldnt a spirit or essence inhabit a body as a host to live? Why couldnt the body be a shell for a life form?
But getting back on track of yesterdays post, is life too short or too long? I heard debates from the other side saying it was way too short, pointing out that the fact that a 2 year old could pass on without ever knowing what Christmas could really be. A mother could pass away without ever seeing her child grow up. I believe in these tragedies and my heart goes out. I believe perhaps their time with us was short and that we would have loved to spend more time with these people who are important to us. We would have loved to have them in our lives just a bit longer. Theres no denying that.
My question is if these thoughts and feelings are for our own sake? Are these all part of our selfish nature? Is this an injustice to us because we didnt get everything we wanted and needed? I think it may have been an injustice to the people we lost to make them stick around and live out such a long existance. Guess it comes back to my thought that life is longer than we expect. They say it goes by fast and in many ways, it does. We grow older and time has flown by, however when we look at the *now* and reflect on the future, and the past, I see how long it truly is.
With that a discussion came about having kids and when seeing a child grow, day by day, year after year, it tends to fly by much quicker. I agree with this but also know time goes by at the same rate for each and every individual. a minute is still 60 seconds, an hour is still 60 minutes, and a day still has 24 hours. Cant escape that logic.
I believe there are advantages and disadvantages to having children. I was allowing myself to be open minded and know that there are always satisfactions in having children. I know there are many things I missed out on by not having kids. Many people over the years have told me what a great father I would be. It would be nice to see that road and see the differences. Truth is, however, that I didnt take that path and I am still happy. I gained other things in the process. I have met some wonderful and influential people to my life. I have lived a life that I am happy with. I have done things and gone places that I may not have been able to go and Im free to continue doing anything I want without having to sacrafice my time for my children. For some, they dont mind and are happy. For me, I needed and still need my freedom.
With that said, I will agree that until you have lived in the other persons shoes, and lived the same life they have lived, there is no way to know what we have truly gained and lost through out time. There is no way to judge the point of mine/their happiness in the present without knowing where they have come from, what makes them happy, and without knowing how it feels to be the other person on the other side of the fence. I accept there is joy in both sides and its just a matter of taking a different path. Both paths are enjoyable Im sure.
Posted by Des at December 1, 2004 05:40 AM
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