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September 17, 2004
Friday... a work week complete
Theres many thoughts through out the day that just make me go hmmm and I forget to put them in writing. One being asian women. It appears that most asian women dress the same, have the same hair styles, and same mannerisms, however once in a while in this city which has a high asian community, you find *that* girl who decides she wants to break free from the heritage and be herself. Im talking about the ones who are more of a rebel and not the women who become *working women*. Its amusing to see that girl shouting at the man in the train station in chinese, japanese, etc...
You can observe but unless you know the language all you see is a girl yelling (and you know its profanity because anytime someone screams in a different language you know all they are saying are swear words. No regular words, just swear words). She is wearing the tight and I mean TIGHT pants, and a half shirt. Her hair has been straightened and cut in a punk rockish sort of way. She carries a tiny pink purse, stands about 5'2, and is thin not by nature but because you know she read it in magazine "where thin is in".
Ok, so all of these are stereotypes and assumptions but it shows you the kind of assumptions we make everyday toward total strangers. I wonder how many assumptions we make in one day. Another example would be when Josh and I were on the Muni one day when we first moved here and he said to me "I love seeing what kind of style people have in other cities" and he pointed to a few people that had extremely unusual outfits on. After thinking about that I thought "You are assuming they are from San Francisco, they could be from other cities around the world and visiting".
New topic, Ive really been feeling like things have gotten so confusing lately. Usually Im the type to have all my ducks in a row and have always credited myself for having a clue but lately Ive been feeling disorganized, out of focus, and find myself realizing things that Ive gone through before. Its kind of like a second time for everything including learning the negatives again. Josh on the other hand seems to have a pretty good grip on things and seems to be pretty focused. He has been presenting things that at the time I would like to disagree with but then after I think about them, I realize he has more of a clue than I did and its usually something that I would have known. Its like Im learning it for the first time again and once I learn it, I think to myself "Ive been through that and if I was still in the former life, I most likely would have had that perception on my own". Its funny how things revolve, life revolves, people revolve, and we always seem to come a full circle in life. Now that Ive come full circle, I guess its time to start a new circle.
I have to stop referring to Rochester using words like "back home". It's a tough habit to break and I need to start recognizing San Francisco as home. I guess its only been 3 1/2 months here but still every time I use words like that, I catch myself and realize that Im feeling like Im still just here on vacation. I need to start feeling more like my life is here now. Any suggestions? Anyone?
Ok so on the way home from work Im on the Muni and a blind girl gets on the already full car. She ask's a guy to get up so she could sit down and although he did, he stood directly over her reading his newspaper which was nearly on top of her head (which it didnt need to be) and kind of grinning like he was "showing her for making him get up". Im not sure what is wrong with people. The guy was about 35-40 years old and looked very much able to stand. I cant understand why people dont offer to get up automatically for people with disabilities and even the elderly. They would rather watch an old woman stumble and perhaps fall when the train yanks to a start or stop, than get up and let them sit down. Thats just so wrong and people do it. Personally, I will stand just so I dont have to worry about those situations.
So I get home last night and Im working on my web page some more, researching cameras again (I now want the panasonic fz15 or fz20) and the phone rings. First call was a friend I am supposed to get together with in the evening. They are going to get something to eat. "what are you doing", "I dont know, what are you guys doing" seemed to be the conversation (mind you the static on the phone was so noisy it was hard to make out the words). They decided to call me back after they ate dinner. Call 2 was from another friend that we were all going to meet up. I knew I wanted to go to the pilsner for a few drinks. He had already been out for since 4:30 and he was already drunk. Call 3, 4, 5, and 6 all the same routine. "what are you doing?", "we went back to the hotel", "I have to call you back" etc... Finally call number 7 (and Im getting frustrated by this time) I answer in a strong, irritated voice. Go figure, Its Josh and wondering what that was all about. After that I decided it doesnt pay to be irritated.
Lets see. Ben, Steve, Tod, Stevie show up. We go and meet Ian at the Pilsner. I ran into Rick who was with someone. I think the guy thought I was hitting on Rick or otherwise just introduced himself to me because he wanted to. I thought the guy was cute before I even noticed the two holding hands. I hope they get together. Anyway, we drank and drank. I had a HUGE Long Island Ice Tea. Pint glass filled to the top with alcohol. He had to overflow it to splash the sour mix and coke. Get this... $7. He charged the guys ahead of me $9 each for theirs hehe... I must me special. :-)
So I had a thought while out drinking with friends. It was wierd to look at them and say that. I have gone out with a friend or two here but this was the first time I was out with multiple friends. There were 6 of us hanging out and having fun. It reminded me of the gang in Rochester and I thought "These guys are no Billy, Jeffy, Jarrod, or Chris5". Although they are fun to hang out with, its just different.
Cruising in SF. Its funny but guys dont cruise the same way in SF as they do in Rochester or even on the east coast. Everyone is always looking in front of them and for some reason they dont want to be distracted. So its a quick eye glance. No head movement at all but just a quick, one second eye glance up and down and then their point of vision is directly in front of them again. Its very hard to explain the technique. On a rare occassion you get the guy who continues to watch you as you pass. You turn around to look at him who has now turned around to get one last look at you. You think "why wasnt this guy at the bar I was at and if he was would we have even made eye contact". Its funny that people who will check you out and smile on the street, dont always talk to you in a bar.
Well that wraps up my Friday. Came home, slept and writing this on Saturday.... Hope I can change the date *chuckle*
Posted by Des at September 17, 2004 11:59 PM
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